A Reminder

Brandy Jensen wrote a column about forgiveness where she said that people would often rather be disliked than misunderstood – this is why I think writing is such an edifying all-purpose remedy. It is, to quote a supervisor for whom I have little respect, a process of thinking through, except unlike in conversational stand-ins for this process, no one will finish your sentence to say ‘…and reminds you of your dad, yeah’, or tell you you’ve done that bit a couple of times before (I invariably have). That same supervisor, for all his exaltation of the neat thinker and the complete thought, will not ‘stop you there’ to tell you ‘what I think you’re trying to say here’. It isn’t happiness, it’s dauntlessness, which is a much more stable currency in a world where establishing a coherent sense of self is a losing battle. I will not be misinterpreted here.